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It hurts. Actually, that’s an understatement.  It hurts like $#%*@&#* hell. But it’s supposed to. One minute ago you were in a relationship, and suddenly… you’re not. Whether it was your decision, his, or a mutual agreement, you may find yourself feeling overwhelmed, confused, sad, angry, or all of the above. Let’s be honest here. Break ups are hard and everyone deals in their own way. Maybe you refuse to take off your old high school sweatpants. Or maybe you haven’t showered in three days. However you’re handling it, here are ten ways to get your fabulous self out of bed and back on the road to being you.

1. Cut all ties with him. We know it’s hard, but defriending him on Facebook will help you move on more easily.  You are going to want to stalk him. And in this day and age, the internet makes it so easy. But you know seeing a wall post from some random girl will drive you crazy for days. You will analyze the death out of it. Why put yourself through that? While you’re at it, get rid of his things and any pictures you have laying around. Make a clean break. You’ll thank yourself later.
2. Fight the urge to stand outside his window with a boom box (well, let’s be honest – it’s 2011 and you’d probably be holding your iPhone, but boom box just sounds so much more romantic) over your head. It was cute when John Cusack did it in “Say Anything” but this is real life and in a couple months when you’re able to look yourself confidently in the mirror and realize you’re better off without him, you’re going to feel silly you once thought that was a good idea.
3. Have you always wanted to learn how to knit? Maybe you’ve been meaning to join a book club but just haven’t found the time? Now that you’re a single lady, you should spend the time you would have spent with him doing something for you. A new hobby will keep you busy and occupied, and you might even get some enjoyment out of it, too.
4. Ice cream, wine, Sex & the City; repeat as needed.
5. Plan a girls’ only night with your closest girlfriends (or if you’re not feeling up to it, enlist your BFF to handle the plan-making). You might just want to mope around in your pajamas, but surrounding yourself with people you love is necessary when trying to move on. Just be sure to ask someone else to handle your cell phone to ensure you don’t drunk dial your ex.
6. Allow yourself to wallow. You just broke up with your boyfriend – you’re allowed to be sad! Designate a day (two, tops) to just lay in bed, eat junk, and watch your favorite movies. Whether it’s “Love Actually” or some classic Molly Ringwald faves (come on, you know that Jake Ryan gets you every time), set aside a bunch DVDs. Then get yourself a pint, or two, of your favorite Ben & Jerry’s, a box of tissues, and be sad. (But please keep in mind that you can’t stay in bed forever. You can be sad and still be a productive member of society.)
7. Hit the spa! Book an appointment for a facial, mani/pedi, massage, or whatever your heart desires. A spa trip will not only get you out of the house, it will ease your stress and cause you to relax, taking your mind off the sting of your break up. If you’re tight on cash, save up for it. Remember that you’re awesome and you deserve to be pampered.
8. Talk about it. Whether it be with your friends, your mom, or even your therapist, keeping your feelings bottled up inside will not help you get past the initial sting of a break up. Talking things out can help you see a fresh perspective. But be fair; no name-calling.
9. Get a new haircut. Paint your room a different color. Join a gym (probably a good idea, considering all the alcohol and junk food you’ve been consuming). Depending on how long you were in a relationship for, you may have not gotten any “me” time for a while. This is the time to start focusing on building a healthier, happier you.
10. In the midst of your breakup, people who love you will feel compelled to give you advice. Some of it will be helpful, most of it will not. But before you let anything anyone says upset you, take a deep breath, smile, and be gracious. Remember that your friends and family love you and are only trying to help.

Do you have any personal breakup tips that helped you get over your ex? Let us know in the comments!